As we have seen, stress adds adventure, learning and excitement to life, and we all need a certain amount of stress to help us fully develop our potential.
Changes, deadlines, confrontations, and even our frustrations and sorrows are all part of life’s journey and to make the trip actually enjoyable.
Our goal then is not to eliminate stress but to learn how to manage it. We need to make the most out of stress. It must not overwhelm us but motivate us instead. How do we do it?
We simply need to learn to control the flow of our emotions along with our thoughts. Learn to c and worry with fortitude.
Many of the great spiritual leaders teach the importance of healing ourselves on a daily basis through sustained meditation.
This doesn’t necessarily mean sitting cross-legged and chanting foreign words.
Instead, it could be a simple as spending a quiet moment with oneself, channeling thoughts of love, serenity, focus and optimism that can reduce inner conflict, eliminating the kind of worries that are harmful to our health.
Meditation only works if you can concentrate well. But concentrating on something is not that hard and can actually help you have a more focused kind of mind. You can try the visualization method of meditation to help you become concentrated.
For instance, when you have a problem, think of it as a certain object, like a stone. Keep your eyes closed and breathe slowly. Then concentrate on the “stone” in your mind. Next, imagine a hammer hitting on the tone.
The hammer represents your peaceful thoughts. As your stone gets pulverized, your hammer becomes the object of your concentration.
Do this several times and you’ll see how positive thinking can distress you effectively.
JUST SMILE” Did you know that smiling can make you look as much as ten years younger? That’s because your skin is linked to your mind. Your complexion reveals more than just your skin color.
It also gauges the amount of stress you carry. Research suggests that stress hormones may work with other hormones to stimulate the sebaceous glands, increasing facial oils.
This, in turn, may make your skin more prone to all types of breakouts. So, as much as possible, try to smile more often and be more positive-thinking everyday. It will show on your face-literally.
Tips On How To Manage Stress
Identifying stress and being aware of its effect in our lives is the first step. The second step is to work toward change.
You must learn to change the source of stress and change your reaction to it.
How? Here are the ways:
- Know that you can change!
This is the most important step in the process, because you need to have trust and confidence in yourself that you can manage the different crises that happen in your life.
You need to believe in yourself and then be confident enough to know that you can survive every challenge.
- Keep your body as healthy as possible.
A good recipe for disaster is getting stressed while practicing unhealthy habits. An idle person under a stressful situation is a walking disaster.
- Understand how you emotionally and physically react to the things that stress you.
Analyze how you get distressed. Face your problems squarely. Determine what events distress you. What are you telling yourself about these reactions? Determine how your body responds to the stress.
Do you become nervous or physically upset? How do you manifest it?
- Don’t react too much to your stress.
A woman broke a plate while washing the dishes one evening, and she immediately began getting hysterical as if it was the end of the world. You might laugh at such a situation, but don’t you see other people going through the same unnecessary responses?
Ask yourself: are you overreacting and viewing everything as absolutely critical and urgent? Do you feel you must always be in command of every situation? Be more calm, more moderate in your views.
See stress as your friend, not as your enemy. Temper your emotions, and put everything in perspective.
- Control your physical responses to stress.
Since stress affects the body, some simple exercises can help counter its effects. Slow, deep breathing will help calm the heart. Enough relaxation can reduce muscle tension. Doctor-prescribed medications or short-term therapy are also effective in regulating an agitated body.
- Take care of your emotions!
This means not allowing your emotions to take over you-discipline them. You can do this by developing supportive relationships with loved ones and friends.
Pursue realistic goals that are meaningful and inspiring to you. Most of all treat yourself with respect, be kind and gentle with yourself-and know who’s the boss of your life.
The following is a popular message that has been circulated via email so often. It describes the kind of attitude we can develop in dealing with stress.
It’s highly-recommended that you make a copy of this and post it on some prominent place or read it regularly to give you your daily dose of inspiration.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door That we don’t see the one Which has been opened for us.
Dream what you want to dream; Go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Don’t count the years – count the memories…. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away!
Stress is something we have to live with, but also something we can utilize to live fully. Ready, get set, distress!